Before taking a new sex toy to bed

New to Sex Toys? These Intuitive Vibrators Are Perfect for Beginners

As SELF previously reported, sex toys can pass along STIs, so safer sex practices apply here. If you’re using a sex toy with someone outside of a sexually monogamous partnership, put a condom over your toy. Condoms are also key if you want to use a toy for both vaginal and anal stimulation (which you can do as long as the toy is safe for anal, a.k.a. it has a flared base). With that being said, each clit is as unique as a snowflake and should be treated as such, according to Lexington, Kentucky-based marriage and family therapist Juliana Hauser, PhD. “Discover if your glans (clitoral tip) likes light vibration or a stronger speed,” she says.

With all that in mind, here are some of the best remote-control sex toys. I don’t think the Pulse II works very well as a partnered toy, for several reasons. They’re definitely not intense enough to create significant pleasure for a female partner. It almost feels like there’s a cancellation effect with the oscillations and the vibrations. It’s too hard and bulky to feel very comfortable pressed in between two bodies, and any sort of thrusting is awkward and even slightly painful. I appreciate the effort to involve a partner, but this just feels like a toy that’s meant to be used on its own.

They called them “paroxysms” because everyone knew that women were incapable of sexual feelings , so they could not possibly experience orgasm. Before taking a new sex toy to bed, I spend some time learning how to turn it on and off, as well as how to use the various functions—so I did the same with the Vibrato. As a person who is admittedly bad with technology even when I’m not seconds away from orgasm, I generally look for gadgets with intuitive button designs. To me, that means just one single switch or a clearly labeled control panel. For people with vulvas, there’s a whole host of ways to have a really good orgasm.

This handheld Strawberry vibrator appears to be more of a fascinating concept than a functional sex toy. These fun and adorable sex toys look like the flirty Emojis you use on your iPhone. Before the era of advanced technology and sex toys, legend has it that the pharaoh created her own makeshift vibrator by filling a gourd with angry bees and letting them do their thing. But thanks to a phenomenal and bizarre Super Deluxe video, the world can now get a crash course in vibrator history. As an addition to penetrative sex, however, it’s one of the better ways I’ve found to add new sensations without requiring much extra work or attention. Or at least, as much as you can forget about a powerful motor vibrating directly on your genitals.

The Dame Fin has three different vibration speeds, with the highest speed being super powerful. I was actually shocked by how rumbly it was — it stimulated just as well as some of my larger vibes. And it’s slim enough that you can slip it between you and your partner during sex. This G-spot stimulator is similar to the tapping vibrator above that tapes on the G-spot once inserted vibrator, only instead of a bunny shape it features a beautiful butterfly on a mission to deliver pure pleasure to the clitoris. It has four flapping and nine vibrating modes that work in tandem and a beautiful rose-shaped base. Made famous by Sex and The City over 25 years ago, The Rabbit vibrator is known for its ability to stimulate the clitoris with impeccable precision.